{Good Reads} Choosing Him All Over Again

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Last month, I read Choosing Him All Over Again, as a part of a blog tour. I cannot recommend this book enough as it truly depicts the hardship of marriage and satan’s plan to steal, kill, and destroy the union created by God.

When I started reading the book, I had no idea that I would be making parallels between Juana and Terry and my own marriage. {Spoiler alert!} Juana leaves Terry briefly because of the lies of this world and then stands in faith believing that her marriage will be restored. While J and I have not ever talked of divorce, I can assure you that most marriages are hanging on by a thread, just like the Mikels.

In our lives, we get consumed with busyness/other stuff and put our marriages on the back burner. Juana reminded me through scripture that our first priority (after God) should be to our spouse. My husband deserves more than my leftovers. My marriage deserves more. I was so convicted by this loving reminder that I’ve been making a more conscious effort to encourage my spouse, show him grace, and most importantly pray for him. Plus, Juana gives some excellent tips on how to pray for your man. This has helped reset my train of thought and helped me to reject the world’s idea of what a marriage should look like.

I would recommend this book to anyone married or single, because I think the Biblical truths shared throughout the Mikels compelling story is worth hearing. For those single or looking to be married soon, the read will help you set your marriage on a solid foundation. As a society, we spend a lot of time planning for our wedding and little time planning to be married. Guess what? I did it too, and the first years of marriage were HARDER because of it. For those of us that are married, this book serves as a wake-up call to each of us. It encouraged me to stop accepting the status quo and start fighting for my marriage to be the way God intended.

If you are interested in reading the book, you can buy it here. If you’d like to read the book and go a little deeper ( I highly recommend), you can download a study guide here.  If you would like to learn more about Juana Mikels, check out her blog here.

Disclaimer: I received this book as a free promotional item, but the thoughts and ideas of this post are my own.

{Merge Your Money} Avoid Financial Infidelity

A lot of people ask me about money. This used to not be the case but somewhere along the path of getting married and following the Dave Ramsey plan, things changed. I am always happy to sit down and chat with folks about their financial situation and give advice based on our experience.  However, the best advice I can offer married couples is to avoid financial infidelity like the plague. Merge your money, talk about your money, and make plans for your money. This helps you and your spouse stay on the same page. It gives you the ability to talk about tough topics (like why saving for a tropical vacation might be important) and omits the possibility of creating a marriage that isn’t based on trust.

If you are trying to build a marriage based on honesty, start with your checkbook. If you don’t believe it’s a good idea , check out this infographic before you close the door on the idea completely. It could save your marriage. I know it’s saved mine.

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